Family vs. Employer

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Since I can fondly remember, writing has always allowed me to escape the incessant chatter that runs rampant in my mind. These days it seems that this chatter decided it needed to break FREE from thy mind and flow out through thy lips. Although it hasn’t gotten me into trouble, I am well aware that my patience is running thin within the realms of parenthood. My loving, compassionate, creative, genius of a child is having difficulties in transitioning through-out his daily life. In relation to this, I am needing to focus all my energy on nurturing these qualms. This didn’t sit well with my newly acquired employer, and I was faced with a choice I have never really had to face as an adult; family vs. employer. The decision was decided even before the question was asked, because I have learned in life that there are certain things you never compromise, and family is at the top of that list! Although I know I made the right decision, it was still a tough decision, and I would be a liar if I said I didn’t feel a bit of frustration at first towards my son. Yet, I then felt immediately remorseful knowing that his little being is going through such turmoil.

The toughest part of being a parent for me is not being able to make everything okay for my child, not being able to fix his problems for him. The feeling of being helpless, or not being able to provide a quick remedy to his pain. Although, we are taking it day by day and allowing for the Lord to work through us, there are times where I get really upset with God. It has been a long way away from home for me, as I grew up in the church; my father (foster) is a minister and my biological family are fairly religious and went to church on Sundays, so I have known more about the bible than about the history of the United States since I was a young child. I have been a follower for as far back as I can remember, which is pretty far back if you’re like me and remember your birth! So, my immediate reaction was to turn to my church community, I am very fortunate to have such a loving, caring, compassionate, resourceful community at that. We have been blessed with the opportunity to have a healing prayer with our pastor and children’s director, which I found very helpful and allowed for my son to be honest about certain feelings that he wasn’t comfortable sharing with me. Our bond has been strengthened by this and what I feared was plaguing him, was affirmed through his lips. We are also seeking counseling through a family mental health specialist, as we can’t do it on our own.

Throughout this journey, I also have been affirmed that my choice to be a strong advocate towards providing boundaries with the time spent with his father are well warranted. Although in the past I have made exceptions, those have come at a cost to my son’s well being and my job in this world is to provide my child with love, safety, security, consistency, and guidance. There isn’t any other job worth having if this one isn’t done whole heartedly, correctly, with humility and patience. The Lord has sworn to me that, ‘…he heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3 and “…Also to You, O Lord, belongs mercy; For You render to each one according to his work.” Psalm 62:12

Xoxo

Simone Shaw

Dieppa Restrepo

Every now and then I stumble upon a designer that not only do I love their aesthetic appeal, but I am inspired as well. I found this when I saw upon an acquaintances feet, Mason Martin Margiela. As much of a fan as I am for Mr. Margiela’s show wear, I was instantly transported to a scene from the Dieppa Restrepo Spring 2013 line. dieppa_restrepo dieppa_restrepo2 dieppa_restrepo3 dieppa_restrepo4 dieppa_restrepo5 dieppa_restrepo6 dieppa_restrepo7 dieppa_restrepo8 dieppa_restrepo9 dieppa_restrepo10 dieppa_restrepo11 dieppa_restrepo12 dieppa_restrepo13 dieppa_restrepo14

 

XO

-Simone

Hot Summer Nights
The last two nights have been extremely hot, which is a blessing and a curse in Seattle. A blessing because we haven’t had good summer weather in so long, and a curse because I’m pretty sure my body is literally in shock from the drastic change in weather . It becomes difficult to function when you’re wearing a wool sweater one day and immediately within the next 12 hours you find yourself in a tank top and shorts, sweating profusely. So, in honor of this bi-polar weather I have created a look that will withstand the rapid change of elements. I definitely would wear this look out on the town with the girls, quite possibly on a 5th date night (yet, the way my love life is these days, I haven’t even had a 2nd date night in over a year!) <—That is for another blog post! Where would you wear this look? Shop the necklace on my online boutique at http://www.candibling.com item number N227; Retro Glam Square-Cut 3 Layer Necklace $128
Xo
-Simone

Hot Summer Nights

Summer Reading

Whenever summer decides to visit Seattle, I always feel the  need to catch up on my leisure reading. I am determined to finish Ayn Rand’s, Atlas Shrugged this summer! I also have a few business owning books that also will be read and some that will be reread…

Atlas Shrugged

Here is a list of books that the BBC states should be read in this lifetime. How many have you read? are reading? Do you agree with this list, what books should be added? Which ones should be removed? and are any on your summer reading list?

1. Pride and Prejudice – Jane Austen

2. The Lord of the Rings – JRR Tolkien

3. Jane Eyre – Charlotte Bronte

4. Harry Potter series – JK Rowling

5. To Kill a Mockingbird – Harper Lee

6. The Bible

7. Wuthering Heights – Emily Bronte

8. Nineteen Eighty Four – George Orwell

9. His Dark Materials – Philip Pullman

10. Great Expectations – Charles Dickens

11. Little Women – Louisa M Alcott

12. Tess of the D’Urbervilles – Thomas Hardy

13. Catch 22 – Joseph Heller

14. Complete Works of Shakespeare

15. Rebecca – Daphne Du Maurier

16. The Hobbit – JRR Tolkien

17. Birdsong – Sebastian Faulk

18. Catcher in the Rye – JD Salinger

19. The Time Traveler’s Wife – Audrey Niffenegger

20. Middlemarch – George Eliot

21. Gone With The Wind – Margaret Mitchell

22. The Great Gatsby – F Scott Fitzgerald

24. War and Peace – Leo Tolstoy

25. The Hitch Hiker’s Guide to the Galaxy – Douglas Adams

27. Crime and Punishment – Fyodor Dostoyevsky

28. Grapes of Wrath – John Steinbeck

29. Alice in Wonderland – Lewis Caroll

30. The Wind in the Willows – Kenneth Grahame

31. Anna Karenina – Leo Tolstoy

32. David Copperfield – Charles Dickens

33. Chronicles of Narnia – CS Lewis

34. Emma -Jane Austen

35. Persuasion – Jane Austen

36. The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe – CS Lewis

37. The Kite Runner – Khaled Hosseini

38. Captain Corelli’s Mandolin – Louis De Bernieres

39. Memoirs of a Geisha – Arthur Golden

40. Winnie the Pooh – A.A. Milne

41. Animal Farm – George Orwell

42. The Da Vinci Code – Dan Brown

43. One Hundred Years of Solitude – Gabriel Garcia Marquez

44. A Prayer for Owen Meaney – John Irving

45. The Woman in White – Wilkie Collins

46. Anne of Green Gables – LM Montgomery

47. Far From The Madding Crowd – Thomas Hardy

48. The Handmaid’s Tale – Margaret Atwood

49. Lord of the Flies – William Golding

50. Atonement – Ian McEwan

51. Life of Pi – Yann Martel

52. Dune – Frank Herbert

53. Cold Comfort Farm – Stella Gibbons

54. Sense and Sensibility – Jane Austen

55. A Suitable Boy – Vikram Seth

56. The Shadow of the Wind – Carlos Ruiz Zafon

57. A Tale Of Two Cities – Charles Dickens

58. Brave New World – Aldous Huxley

59. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time – Mark Haddon

60. Love In The Time Of Cholera – Gabriel Garcia Marquez

61. Of Mice and Men – John Steinbeck

62. Lolita – Vladimir Nabokov

63. The Secret History – Donna Tartt

64. The Lovely Bones – Alice Sebold

65. Count of Monte Cristo – Alexandre Dumas

66. On the Road – Jack Kerouac

67. Jude the Obscure – Thomas Hardy

68. Bridget Jones’s Diary – Helen Fielding

69. Midnight’s Children – Salman Rushdie

70. Moby Dick – Herman Melville

71. Oliver Twist – Charles Dickens

72. Dracula – Bram Stoker

73. The Secret Garden – Frances Hodgson Burnett

74. Notes From A Small Island – Bill Bryson

75. Ulysses – James Joyce

76. The Inferno – Dante

77. Swallows and Amazons – Arthur Ransome

78. Germinal – Emile Zola

79. Vanity Fair – William Makepeace Thackeray

80. Possession – AS Byatt

81. A Christmas Carol – Charles Dickens

82. Cloud Atlas – David Mitchell

83. The Color Purple – Alice Walker

84. The Remains of the Day – Kazuo Ishiguro

85. Madame Bovary – Gustave Flaubert

86. A Fine Balance – Rohinton Mistry

87. Charlotte’s Web – E.B. White

88. The Five People You Meet In Heaven – Mitch Albom

89. Adventures of Sherlock Holmes – Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

90. The Faraway Tree Collection – Enid Blyton

91. Heart of Darkness – Joseph Conrad

92. The Little Prince – Antoine De Saint-Exupery (In French)

93. The Wasp Factory – Iain Banks

94. Watership Down – Richard Adams

95. A Confederacy of Dunces – John Kennedy Toole

96. A Town Like Alice – Nevil Shute

97. The Three Musketeers – Alexandre Dumas

98. Hamlet – William Shakespeare

99. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory – Roald Dahl

100. Les Miserables – Victor Hugo